Sunday, March 4, 2012

What the hell is wrong with me?

Now this question has been bothering me for sometime...People tell me that Extroverts gain energy by being in social situations and talking to people %26amp; are less concerned about their inner feelings...And its exactly the opposite for Introverts who like to be lost in their own internal world of thoughts and imagination..their energy gets drained by talking to people...But I have to say that I kinda consider myself an introvert but I've never experienced being drained of energy in a social situation...I can talk for hours and hours on end with even random strangers without getting tired...On my recent college trip I must have talked,laughed and joked around wid people for the entire day and was still raring to go when I got back from it...I have a very vivid imagination and I tend to daydream and ponder about stuff a lot(it gets very excessive sometimes..U cud call me borderline nuerotic)...I get depressed easily but I dont have any social anxiety..I have a lot of confidence but am plagued with a lot of self doubts from time to time(maybe bcoz I overthink about stuff so much)...I think a lot before I speak and will analyse every single detail of every single minor little thing and start thinking about it and forming ideas in my head..But its not like in public gatherings I'll keep only to myself without socializing with people...U'll never find me in the corner of the room in a Party..I consider myself fairly social and well versed in talking to people..So I dint understand dis deal about introverts being wired to lose energy/interest when they socialize wid people...I'll maybe zone out of the conversation after talking wid friends for a long time(hours on end) and den get right back to it widout a hint of tiredness..I tuk a personality test and one classified me as an extravert,while in the big 5 test I was scored in between Introversion and extraversion, in the myers briggs personality test I got my result as INFP...So what would you classify me to be??An introvert or an extrovert?? Also when you talk about expending energy...cud you describe how dat feels like?? is it completely zoning out of the conversation and thinking about your own stuff for sometime or is it like full on depression and social anxiety?? Tangible scientific proof about my condition wud be very much appreciated!!What the hell is wrong with me?
Just forget these terminology like extroverts and introverts and simply be yourself and you will be alright!What the hell is wrong with me?
Many people mistake that being an introvert means talking less, and being an extrovert means talking more. In fact, being an introvert means needing time to recharge alone at the end of the day, where extroverts need to be around people to feel this recharge. If extroverts go without people for a bit of time, they feel as if they are cut off from society. And although introverts may feel this type of Cabin fever after a long bit of time, they can surely go a fair bit longer than most extroverts. I took the test and came out as an INTP. I have some social anxiety issues, but that's in situations I really don't feel at ease in. However, I can put on a mask, or even become absorbed in whatever social situation I find myself in and can be funny, spontaneous, witty, and gregarious. Though, at the end of the day I absolutely -require- time devoted to just me and my thoughts alone. Expending energy feels just like it sounds. Your thoughts basically drag out a bit, and you even become physically tired from being around people if for too long a time. It doesn't really feel like depression or social anxiety then in this way, though it can certainly lead to these mental states. If you say you love being around people for much of your time, seek out people, and are energized by them; then you very well may be an extrovert. If that is the case, then you would be an ENFP http://personalitypage.com/ENFP.html %26lt;They're actually considered to be one of the most social of the types. Overall, you can still be an introvert and love people, meeting them, talking with them, etc... it just matters if at the end of the day socializing is a necessity to you or not.What the hell is wrong with me?
Introversion and extraversion exist on a continuum. The varied results on different personality tests could also be related to situational factors - your mood the day you took it, your experience right before taking it, etc. For example, let's say on your way to the myers-briggs test taking, a stranger stepped on your foot. Perhaps your results were less sociable that day because of that happening or because your mood was low and you were more pessimistic in that area. Likewise foryour first personality test...maybe you had just had a really good conversation with a close friend and were feeling more sociable than usual.

I think it sounds like you are more extroverted, since you can talk andd talk - and here's the kicker - with strangers. You are thinking before you speak, too, thus framing your thoughts relative to social standpoints. Most people enjoy talking about their inner thoughts/feelings with people they are close to, as it shows trust and intimacy. But, since you enjoy chatting with strangers and that is sort of the opposite of introversion. It is not to say introversion is antisocial - carl jung coined these terms as a way to describe how people relate to the world around them. (From this, eyesenck and others and myerrs-briggs adapted theiir own ideas; the extroversion-introversion concepts are not necessarily scientific or used in evidence-based practice, although personality tests can be helpful for various psychotherapies and knowing thyself. Personality is a hazy area in psychology (I.e. depression can be reduced to a chemical imbalance but personality usually fluctuates as we mature). Introversion-extraversion is just an idea (originally proposed by carl jung in the early 1900s, then myers-briggs et al. Developed their tests much later). Also, these ideas exist in a continuum and you could be in the middle of the continuum -sometimes more prone to introversion, but when interested in a subject, happily able to adapt to/respond to novel social situations. Consistent personality is also defined by dispositional attributes, but separating those from situational attributes is not an exact science either.

There isn't anything wrong with being an introvert and there isn't anything wrong with being an extrovert. These are just descriptions of tendencies in human nature.

If you are overworrying and the anxiety is discomforting or causing you issues, then yyou may want to seek a mental health professional (I.e. talk therapy/psychotherapy or a psychiatrist/medical perspective or a combination of both). But personality, as a subfield, encompasses many different theories. Carl jung proposed his theories right after freud's psychosexual theories so back then, he was taking freud's definition of sexual energy and de-sexing it: talking about psychic energy for the first time without referencing sex. So, how they thought of "energy" back then was a little different. Modern psychologists would use different terminology or concepts (such as studies in motivation or attention/retention processes, etc)
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